Deadly Thoughts

The thought of death often perplexes the mind.  That grand finale, the last act on the stage of life, as the curtains come down on life’s performance of our loved ones, friends or colleagues.  This is known as death, which leaves us with a void, and an emptiness.

What is this final act of life anyway? Why does it leave us so empty, so sorrowful? How do I cope with this massive loss?  Why was I so unprepared for this? Could I have prepared for the death of my friend? Did I  ignore possible signs of death, for example, ill-health? Could I have done anything to help?

My thoughts of death often run off in many directions. There is the grave need to understand death.  What it really is and how we handle this sure phenomena.

Definition of Death

Death is defined as “…the end of life…the final act, passing on, passing away, departure from life”. So death is the sure promise given to humanity, which each of us must face. It causes emotional and physical pain.

Emotion and Physical Reaction to Death

Emotional Reaction

From the definition given above, there is bound to be mixed emotional reactions experienced from the death and loss of our friends and loved ones. Emotions associated with death are sadness, guilt, anxiety, fear, anger even joy is sometimes expressed.  

  • Sadness sets in because of the certainty of death and our inability to explain the shock of the loss.
  • Guilt might creep in as persons grapple with thoughts such as, “If I had known that s/he was ill, could I have done more to prevent the death of my loved one or friend?”
  • Unexplained anger is another common emotion.  We feel angry because the friend might not have shared about their illness. “Why did s/he have to go?” –  a question often asked.  
  • Sometimes the joy of knowing our loved ones will finally rest in peace helps us to grief.  

It is very important to express these emotions as they help with the grieving process, a coping mechanism which is necessary to overcome the pain associated with death.

Physical Reaction

The physical reaction to death such as muscular tension, insomnia, and exhaustion, all form part of the process to release the pain affliated with this tragic loss.

Handling the loss of death is difficult, and grieving is, therefore, necessary to assist with the emotional and physical reaction.  In fact, there is no easy or real way to prepare death.  It is a struggle with our emotions and physical reactions, which often requires the assistance of an expert.


When my friend passed tragically this month,  there was much mourning and grieving, shown from the people whose lives he touched. Death came and suddenly stole our colleague and friend from us, leaving this trail of confusion with many becoming overwhelmed with sadness and visible crying among friends and colleagues.

Written on faces were obvious questions and wonders about why did he have to go now? Why this way? What could have been done to help him? Did he die alone? Where will he spend the end of life? Will Ihe be seen again? All these questions caused the thoughts about death to permeate the atmosphere.

My thoughts, of late, has been how do I prefer to die? In my sleep? Certainly not tragically.  Where will I spend the end? Will I live again in another life? Are my friends and family living on somewhere else?


In the end, these are thoughts, which many of us tend to ponder. We mull them over and over in our minds with the wait for some semblance of understanding about life and death. Will we ever receive a favorable response to our questions? Will we ever be prepared for the final act of life? Let us continue the discussion.


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